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Wednesday, July 05, 2006

Do you remember what you were doing 20 years ago today?

I do.

I had just come home from summer camp where, in my teen-aged estimation, I'd met the most fabulous guy. Our group spent 1 week in Minnesota, and then some of us stayed for another week as "Junior Counselors" or "Free Labor" or some other meaningless title. I stayed. He didn't - but he wrote me at least one letter during that week. And knowing me, I probably wrote him a lengthy missive in return.

I remember giddily calling him as soon as I got home. Since neither of us could drive and we lived on opposite sides of the city, we didn't get to see each other for a couple of weeks - but in retrospect we decided that July 5th was our "anniversary." That guy was B - and we ended up dating for most of high school and well into college.

Since B and I still keep in touch, I sent him an email asking him the question posed in the title of this post. I was genuinely surprised to find that he didn't remember.

I guess I shouldn't expect someone to remember the details of their failed relationships, but the thing is that I do.

Sadly for my bar studies, this memory for detail doesn't typically relate to the law, but I tend to remember lots of minute details about people who have been important in my life. And if you ask me when I first met most of my friends, I can usually pinpoint an event and in some cases give you the date. If there was food involved, I can probably tell you what it was. And it really throws me if I forget things I feel like I should remember.

Does anyone else do this or am I some kind of freak of nature?

I remember almost NOTHING about my childhood. My memories are scattered and incomplete. My significant other, on the other hand, is more like you. He can remember every nuance of almost every day of his childhood. What people were wearing, the looks on their faces, etc. He remembers at least months, if not specific days.

Not me. Not at all.
Guys just don't remember things like specific dates. It's hardwired into our brains not to. It doesn't mean anything.
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